Q: I recently had a threesome with my wooplus husband. It was amazing. We both loved it very much. My wooplus husband even suggest that we should do it on a regular basis. He said that we could arrange a threesome hookup once or twice a week. I agreed. After all, there are so many tinder for threesome apps in the market and it is very easy to find a threesome partner on it. While I am happy for it, I am also concerned that threesome is going to influence our marriage. We have been married for over 5 years. I can feel that the passion between us is fading away. One of the reasons I firstly agreed to have a threesome is to spice up our marriage for a little bit. I think our relationship needs it. Besides, I am also interested. By making threesome hookup a regular thing, I am afraid that my husband will eventually lost interest in making love to me alone. I am afraid that he might be addicted to it and to making love with other women. To be honest, it is absolutely possible to happen. I heard many stories about it. What should I do? Should I tell my husband to quit the idea? But I also hate to let him down. Is there any way to make sure my marriage won't be influenced by threesome hookup?
A: I am very glad to find that you didn't mention the influence of your first threesome. I take it for that it didn't cause much influence to your relationship. This is a very good start. It means that you are currently in a very steady relationship, at least for now.
First, you need to understand that threesomes is definitely going to influence your relationship, both in good way and bad way. Also, there is no way to make sure that it won't influence your marriage. Second, if you are going to make it a regular thing, you are probably going to be in an open relationship very soon. It doesn't always mean bad. Open relationship can be very good for some couples. They love each other and willing to let each other to experience something new and fun. Now, I would like to tell you how to be in an open relationship without hurting your marriage, since this is actually the issue you are concerned right now.
First and most important of all, you need to understand that you are a team and a family. The purpose of you doing this is for the sake of your marriage and yourselves. Remember that you love each other. There is nothing that can tear you apart. Second, discuss everything together. Who are you going to have threesome with? Where? How? Set boundaries and make sure to keep it. No crossing lines. Third, try not to make someone to be your regular threesome partner. This is dangerous for a relationship. Emotional attachment could grow by time. Just to be sure, do not let anyone to stay long no matter how much you like it, even you both like it.